Thinking, Again

I found a stockpile of porn I’d bought on my old e-reader. It is not surprising that most of it is BDSM-related. I started re-reading the stories.

Oh my.

Many of the stories have really terrible narratives around consent. Just terrible.

While fantasy owes nothing to real life, I find that stories with questionable or non-consent to be quite the turn-off. Exploring BDSM in reality has changed how I view it.

The fantasy aspect of being ravaged or swept off my feet was appealing because I did not want to take responsibility for my sexuality. I got caught up in the entirely false idea of the ideal partner just knowing. How naive is that?

It took a huge kick in the ass for me to ask for what I wanted from Sir.

But I did. And I am glad.

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